OMFG

Yeah, that was my first reaction this morning when the guy who I barely know apart from he lives in the same apartment building with me, knocked on my door and asked if he can use my phone to call his friend in Australia. As a good neighbor, of course, I let him. Besides, it could’ve been me who is in his position, so yeah. After finished made a phone call, he was like introduced himself once again and was like, “I couldn’t ignored the fact that you were a pretty girl, so can I take you out for lunch?” I was like, “What the F…! Are you freaking serious?”

Okay, let me explain to you which part of this incident that actually bothered me so much. First of all, he came to my apartment to borrow my phone, and over my generosity, I let him making that call to Australia while he can easily goes to any paid phone to do so, but instead of say thank you, he asked me out. Second of all, he looks like he could be a hundred and eighty years old himself. Oh my flipping God, I really admire his gut, ha! But the other thing that bother me even more was when I turned him down and said that am very-very super serious busy, he was like, “What about tomorrow?” Then of course, I said the same thing, it’s not that am lying or anything, but I really do have so many things to do. Guess what, he was like, “Can you think about it first? I’ll comeback tomorrow and ask you again.” Wow! That’s my friend, what I call determination! I’ve got to pay him some credits for that.

Alright, am not going to talk about those boring stories here as I think that was kind of lame topic to discuss in my ‘oh so cool’ blog, so yeah, let me back to the original idea of what I was going to talk about here. If you a guy who, let say in your middle age timeline, would you prefer to date young girl or you prefer to pick someone in your age range? How old is too old? What age differences would make a date an OK according to normal standard? By saying normal standard here, I do mean normal people. Am not talking about Donald Trump, The Hef or Hollywooders here as they were from another planet, so of course, they can date anyone or anything they want, ha!

But, as for regular everyday people like us, how do we work these age gaps between men and women in our day to day life? I mean, a few years back, I met a much way too young guy who asked me out but I turned him down as I was afraid of society punishment if I said yes. I mean, he was like ten years younger than me, but the truth is, I was kind of fell for him in my heart even though my common sense told me to forget about it. So heart broken back then. We didn’t speak for almost a year afterward as he was so upset because of my decision to go with my head over my heart.

Don’t get me wrong, but yeah, you can call me old fashioned or conventional, but to be labeled as a cougar was never proud me at all. I have so many friends dated much younger guy but I was never going to follow their steps whatsoever. But then, there was one thing that actually caught my attention so bad. Why did they have a label for women who dated much younger men while when it happens to be the other way around they were like OK and take that as something cool? Seriously, I really don’t get it. I mean, even though when a much older woman seeing a much younger man, but it was normally the man who made the first move. For some reasons, if a much older woman asked first then she was a cougar, but in the other hand, if a much older man did it, instead of becoming a pervert, then he was a cool guy. How was that happened? Totally confuse.

But as a woman myself, I was actually amazed seeing how guys are so confident with their age and never see them as a boundary. If they like someone they just go for it and never consider anything else while girls were totally the opposite. We were like so obsessed with our age and what the society is going to say if we went out with much younger guys. So not cool. And that’s my friend, what I call lame!

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