Is Myspace A New Booty Call?

In the movie ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’ , there was a scene where Drew Barrymore’s character got a message from someone in this social network site called ‘myspace’ and she showed it to her gay colleagues and they were like, “Oh no, no-no…don’t you know that ‘myspace’ is a new booty call?” I was like, what? Well, here is the thing, I have a myspace account for almost two years now. Just like my other social network account, I was using this site to posted my blog as I really wanted for more people to read my writes therefore I will get more feedback so I can review and revise my writes. So yeah, that was kind of embarrassment to me when I found out about this fact. I mean, now that am thinking back, maybe the film was right. Oh, I didn’t say this just because of the film, though. The film was just reconfirmed my suspicion these whole time. I mean, here is my story. I joined myspace because of a friend of mine suggested me to. And because of, as I said above, my wish of reaching more readers, so yeah, I then signed up for the site.
The first two weeks I registered, I’ve got four marriage’s proposal from all over the world. I was like, huh? I mean, which part of my profile showing that am looking for a man? None, Zip, Nada! I bet none of the person proposed to me saw my profile as it was set for private, so…what the heck? At that time I was confused, hence I deactivated my account as it was kind of creep me out. Come on, how often did you get someone you don’t even know proposing to you? How desperate can you be to do such thing? One of the guy who proposed was an US soldier who served his country in Iraq, as he described himself on his message. Over a sympathy to him, I replied his message as at first he was only saying that he wanted to be friends. Did he? Nope. After I replied his first message then he was like talking nonsense and mention about building ‘OUR’ future together, yup…exactly, he said our! Then he also came out with this crazy idea of leaving his job in the army to come to my country so we can start our business together. Seriously, this was his second message to me, and he was already referred to me and him as a ‘we’. I don’t know, should I laughed at him or pity him?
So yeah, I deactivated my account for a while back then because of this stupidity. But then I was thinking, why bother? I mean, for me, to have more people reading my writes was a blessed. Then why would this silly joke stop it? Over that consideration, I reactivated my account again. Surprise-surprise! Yeah, as you guessed…here comes the proposals all over again. But, after seeing the movie, I was just having a laugh about that. I mean, I never reply to any no more, instead, am having fun by reading them with my friends and joke around about them. Am sorry guys, but it does feel funny to read all of your proposals. Hah!
So, is myspace a new booty call? Maybe. Maybe for some people who has those hectic schedules hence have no time to socialize, they can use this site for searching a date or whatever. But for me, I prefer meeting someone in person and follow the organic process of falling in love naturally. Hey, am a freak, remember?
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Because You Loved Me

If someone ask me who (according to me) is the strongest person in the world, my answer would be a woman in general and a mother in particular. Here is the thing, I woke up this morning didn’t realize that today is a mother’s day until I watched (OMG, please don’t laugh at me) Oprah’s show. As you guys expected, yeah, the show was discussed everything motherly. First, there was this Jenny McCarthy girl who supposed to be someone famous but I don’t really recall until at the end there comes Jim Carey who introduced by Oprah as her boyfriend, then I got it. She wrote this book called ‘Mother Warriors’ that mostly talked about her fights to healed her son from Autism. A breakthrough story, but it doesn’t really impressed me much as she was a famous figure with a help from an A-list actor so whatever she’s done was too good to be in a real life.
Then came this everyday woman name Monica who last year, together with her fiancé Tony, were having a baby girl. During her difficult pregnancy, her doctor warned her about some virus that attacked her body. This was a kind of virus that eats human fleshes and organ, a very dangerous one. But, despite on anything, she continued her pregnancy and told her fiancé to safe the baby instead of her, in case if there is any problem in delivery room. Okay, let’s make it short, she had a baby girl but after delivered the baby she has got to deal with the virus that attacked her. So, the doctor told her that he has to remove almost half of her stomach organs. To make it even worse, she has got to have her two arms and legs amputated. I was like, what the heck? What a woman supposed to do without those things, what a person supposed to do? Surprisingly, with that big heart that she got, she was like, “Ok, do it. Do whatever you need to do to bring me home to my girls.” What a woman! She didn’t even allow herself to have those ‘why me’ moments like normal people would have. All that she had in mind was how to get home to her family and be able to take care her two little girls back again. After two months in hospital and faced thirty seven surgeries, she finally home with her now husband and kids. Yeah, during the recovery and therapy period in the hospital, they got married. Tony, the fiancé, said that he had no doubt nor a second thought about their marriage at all even though she wasn’t exactly the same woman who he purposed to, but inside she still the same person. Oh, so sweet. And maybe it was hard for anyone to believe, but there was not tears whatsoever during their wedding ceremony in her hospital room. That was a kind of love that you will not find easily nowadays.
The story above really inspired me on how strong women could be. Here is the thing, am not a feminist as I was always depends on guy in everything, but I have to admit that women in general, mothers to be exact, are special in many ways. They can be in two places at one time. Women can still do their works at the office while fixing the dinner for tonight. For women, they don’t have to be a mother to have those motherly touch, it was just something that came naturally. I mean, a wife in general, whether in purpose or not, tend to be a mother in a different meaning for a husband. A wife is the one who in charge on housework whether she was a housewife or a business woman. Of course, with all of those privileges that we have got nowadays, a maid is another option to simplify things, but still, women are the decision maker in the house, while men were only care of the final results. I mean, I often heard men were upset because of the partners asked them to stop by at the laundry to pick up, let say, the quilt. They were like, “Do you have any idea what I’ve been dealing with at work all day? And you still want me to stop on the way home for something so lame like that? Why don’t you pick it up yourself?” That was so manly thing. Men don’t know that if women want to tell them the list of what they’ve been dealing with all day long, then the list would be insanely long. Seriously, I still remember when I was a kid, my mom was a working mother who was also busy with her organizations everywhere. I barely see her at home, but, my sister, my brother and I were never been neglected as a child. Somehow, with a full help from maids of course, she managed to put food on the dining table on time and we, her children, growth as happy kids and never even feel like she was never been there for us. I realized how difficult that was now, how hard a job as a woman was. The different between man and woman was shown from the way they deal with daily routine. Woman, for some reasons, can simplify things in life. I knew many women who have a very good career and still maintain to look after their husbands and kids, still maintain to hang out with friends, still maintain to have their time to take care of themselves so that they were always happy. I mean, come on guys, how many times did you hear guys complain about their works? Almost every day. While in the other hand, unless if there is something so bad happened, women tend to keep things for themselves. For some reasons, women are more sensible than men. Hence, statistically, women can deal with stresses better than men.
However, women are also human therefore they made mistakes. This was still from the Oprah’s show thingy, there is a woman name Brenda something who accidentally killed her daughter Cecilia by leaving her in the car and completely forgot about it. By the time someone noticed that there was a three years old girl locked in the car, it was already way too late. In the interview with the police after the incident, Brenda was devastated. She kept on saying, “Am not a good mother, good mothers don’t do that, I want to die.” Now, my question is, what did good mother do anyway? I mean, if your husband is happy, your kids are happy, you put nice clothes on them, you fed them alright, does that makes you a good mother? Because from the image that I got, that was exactly what Brenda does. Only that one morning, when she forced to changed her routine by taking Cecilia to daycare on the way to work that was normally did by her husband who has a dentist appointment that day. Man, I tell you what, sh*t thing happens and it was an honest mistake that she didn’t realized that she got her baby with her as the baby was fallen asleep at the back seat. And besides, how many times does your brain do that auto pilot thingy by telling the other part of you to do something that you were always do in your normal day? Sometime you don’t even acknowledge thing until it’s done, then you were like, “What did I do in my office? I supposed to have a day off today.” I bet it sounds familiar. So yeah, easy for us to say “How could she forgot about her daughter?” But when you were in the same position with Brenda, who has to work every day while she was also a mother and a wife, then you will understand what am I talking about. Am not a real mother yet, but I feel her, I really do.
So, if you ask my opinion about what is the toughest job in the world, then my answer would be being a woman and a mother. That was a full time job that doesn’t tolerate problems. Being a mother, you have got to be there, happy and smiling, just for the sake of your children. Being a woman, you have got to look good, happy, and entertaining, for the sake of your man. Many times we see our social circuit tolerate craps when they done by men just because they are men while if they done by women, then they will like, “How could she do that? She’s a mother for God sake!” But no, am not complaining the society here, because believe it or not, I feel flattered as a woman. Why? Because that means that the society, somehow, admit that women are stronger than men, hence they expect something more from women, something better. Gosh, am so happy that I was born woman! Despite on any boundaries, being a woman is best thing that could happened to someone. And maybe this one is going to hurt men’s ego, but yeah, women are more powerful than them. I mean, can you imagine if men have to deal with their PMS and period every month, the pregnancy, the kids, housework, office works and men at the same time? The world would be at war every day, hah! Then yeah, of course, I dedicate this blog of mine to every woman in the world generally and mothers in particular. Because their loves that make the world like the way it is at the moment. Because of women and mothers. At the end, even though it was kind of surprising for me as it is for you, but I have to admitted that I agree with Jenny McCarthy when she recently wrote a book ‘Mother Warriors’. Yeah, a mother would do everything for her children therefore a mother is a warrior. And when I said mother here, it doesn’t mean literally. You can be a mother for your own kids, for your nieces or nephews, for your adopted children, for your students if you were a teacher, for your childish partners, or even for your pets. Any kind of mothers that women can be, make them warriors. But yeah, you have got to be a mother first, then you will be a warrior automatically. It was just an instinct that women have, a natural feeling to protect and do whatever they think best for their children.
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Bali, May 9th 2010
To every mother in the world, especially my mom…Happy Mother’s Day! Thanks for making me who I am and who am not…am everything I am because you loved me…

From The Scale Of 1 To Clay Aiken, How Gay Are You?

Don’t get me wrong with the title of this blog because am not going to write about gay story here. Not at all. So, sit back and don’t jump into a conclusion about me as an anti-gay person just yet because this one is way different than whatever you think of at this moment.
A couple of months ago, when my friends and I went for a short holiday in Jakarta, we were thinking about introducing a dear friend to another dear friend of us. Both of them are singles and the guy was always asked us to set him up with someone, as he has been single for quite sometime now. So yeah, one night we set him to meet my dear cute friend which a very close friend of mine but not in our sort of gang. Coincidentally, when she picked me up for a dinner date one night, the guy was in our apartment, in our bed to be exact, snuggling with my other dear friend. So yeah, I pulled her into the bedroom to introduced to him. As I knew my dear girl for almost six years now, I can see the shocked in her face seeing him underneath the quilt. Here is the thing, maybe I didn’t mention it yet to you guys, but even though she was a dear friend of mine, we only see each other few times a year as we live in two different cities. So yeah, she might knew how close I was to my gang, but to see it by her own eyes probably was too much for her.
On the way to dinner, I asked her what she thought of the guy. Here was her reaction, first she laughed. But I catch the bitterness in her laugh. Then she was like, “How could you try to set me up with a guy when he was snuggled with other girl in a bed like that? I mean, now the image of him in bed with other girl was the first impression that I could imagine the whole time!” I was like, “ But that was nothing, you knew who the girl is, and we all are friends in there. And yeah, we do share bed but that was different. We don’t have that kind of feeling that a woman and a man have when they share bed. We’re friends and don’t you do the same thing with your friends too?” She then like, “Um…no?”
Now, as I said before, different people have different way on how to deal with life in general and there was nothing wrong about that. Maybe my dear friend doesn’t do whatever we do inside our circle, but that was totally alright. It was only about the matter of choice that you make in life. As simple as that. So yeah, don’t judge us just because we were never have any boundaries when it comes to friendship. For us, friendship doesn’t concern gender, so often we said that everyone in our group is gay. We were never consider that there are actually two opposite sexes in the gang. For us, we all are the same. Maybe for some people this sounds weird but that the way we treat our friendship. I can not see any other way to treat a friend, because to be honest with you, I live in a circle of a very nice friends and we were that closed to each other hence a misunderstanding sometime. Our partners were used to be the ones who objected with our closeness, but, after we explained to them on how we treat our sort of friendship thingy, they forced to accepted it. Of course, there was a time when they were not happy with it, but at the end of the day, they adjusted. Am pretty sure that our partners now were kind of think of themselves as gays too. Yeah, just so they can mingle, hah! So guys, from the scale of 1 to Clay Aiken, how gay are you? Are you gay enough to be one of us?
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P.S : I Love You...

If you read my previous blog, then you would ask why aren’t we talk about ‘boyfriend stealer’ now as I promised. But, as I said all the time, I barely said something in serious meaning so why bother talk about it here? I mean, you guys can watch ‘Denise Richards’ show on E! for that, can’t you? Hey, she is an ultimate boyfriend stealer, remember?

Instead, in my blog, let’s talk about something funnier, and this was a true story. My friends, two Aussie guys, went out one night to a club and, as you were expected, met girls over there. After spent some ‘quality times’ together, one of them exchanged phone numbers with one of the girls and decided to stayed in touch. A few days after, their sort of relationship started became pretty intense as they were almost texting each other everyday, few times a day even. For my friend, as a guy, it was pretty much a fun thing to do. Hey, what else could a single guy do if he got sweet messages on phone from a girl apart from replying them? But, in the other had, looked like the girl was started to think it as something special. Like they were having this sort of serious relationship or something. Man, I warned him to be careful as girls usually don’t fall in love just for fun but he was never believe. Until one night, when they were texting each other again, and at the end of her text the girl wrote those magic words : I love you! My friend was like, “Say what???”
So yeah, when my friend then told me what happened and showed me the text, I was laughed my head off then was like , “What did you say to her, dude? Honestly!” He then like, “Nothing! I said nothing!” Seriously, he tried to convince us that he was the victim here rather than anything else. Dude, you failed! Hah!
Okay…now seriously, as a girl, I can understand what the girl been through here. We, the girls, are usually taking thing like this with our feeling, sometime too deep, while in the other hand, guys are more relax and playful about it. When guys said that you are beautiful and he enjoyed your company, doesn’t mean that he loves you or wants you to marry him next week. When guys said something, sometime the meanings are indeed literally. So girls, please be wise and sensible whenever you are in the same situation as the girl I talked about above. Don’t jump into a conclusion just yet, just because some random guy texting you intensively, doesn’t mean that he is actually into you. It took more than just short messages to make a guy loves you. A lot more.
The other thing that you should consider as well before doing something stupid like the girl I mentioned above is you would definitely be a joke for him and his friends. Yeah, whoever the girl was, am so sorry but you were became a joke between us now. I mean, I know it was kind of mean for me as a girl to be involved in this joke but what can I do? I have to admit it that this was indeed very funny. I guess they were right when they said that girls don’t fall in love just for fun. So don’t blame us that now we have a ‘solemn’ words that we were always used whenever we texting each other. As you guessed, yeah…those words were : “I love you” Hah!
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To my dear friends Mas and Cookie...thanks for sharing the story with me, and..."I love you!" haha..

Was It Wrong For Falling In Love?

Do you, like me, agree with the idea that falling in love is actually the best feeling that you ever had in life? Believe it or not, survey proved that people who are often in love will live longer than those who don’t. Why? Because when you were in love, almost every aspect of your body worked properly. Your hear beat works better, your blood pump better, your immune system, your senses, your brain, even your digestive organs work properly. Don’t ask me why, am not the scientist here, but yeah, it happens. No, am not going to preach you guys about all of those facts in my blog. Hey, my writes were never about something scientifically, remember? But, my question is, who own those sweetness and privileges in this world? I mean, does falling in love only belong to singles? So that if you were not available anymore that means that you have to close your eyes whenever your type of opposite sex person passing by? I mean, I won’t be lie here, but sometime when a cute guy went passed me, of course I would notice.
Am I a bad girl? Here is the thing, as a human being, I often confused about this love thing. A couple of months ago, when one of my girlfriends was kind of flirting with someone else behind her partner‘s back, another friend of mine told me to talk to her as I was the closest one to her compare to everyone else in our group. I don’t know about you guys, but for me, there was nothing wrong about that. Am sorry, am not trying to say that am a pro cheaters, but the thing is, who said that falling in love is only belong to singles. I just don’t buy that. Besides, who can control those kind of things, no one. I don’t plan to fall in love since I knew it was kind of unacceptable to do so when you were not singles, but it happens. My dear friend then said that if you were committed yourself to someone then you should aware with the consequential that follows. Well my friend, believe me when I said I do. But I can’t control my feelings, am sorry I just can’t.
Likewise, who would be strong enough to control who they fall for? I mean, when you fall in love, was that your feeling or your common sense that playing a part? Because for me, it was totally my feeling. Therefore, I can never control who I fall for. As an example, if I fall for someone who was not single, who should I blame? I certainly won’t blame myself as I never planned to fall in love to a wrong guy. Besides, who can say exactly which person is right and which one is wrong for you to fall for? Um…no one? Seriously, just because a guy has been taken, does that mean that you were not allow to fall for him? Come on, who made that lame rule? That was so unfair. Well, if you were a mad type of person who willing to do anything to get the person that you fell for, of course that was fair enough. But, am talking about myself. For someone like me and my friends, that was unnecessary. I mean, when we fell for someone in a fun way, then we will keep it simply fun. I mean, not that we will steal them from their girlfriends or anything like that. It was not even in the schemes. Not that we will leave our partner either, but as I said, a fun thing will always be a fun thing. So yeah, when my friend was having fun with that guy that she flirt with, for me, and this was because I knew her very well, that was simply a fun thingy that she played that time. Then I tried to explained it to another friend who, for some reasons, took it seriously, that he had nothing to worry about. That my friend and I were not going to commit an adultery or anything close to that. He was like, “You guys love playing with fire.” I was like, “Yeah, we do. But only because we were made of water so we will never get burn.”
Okay, let me explain my words to you guys. My friends and I were never take anything too serious. I mean, we took our relationship with our partners seriously, of course. But it doesn’t mean that we can’t socialize. We are not those type of people who shut down all of outside world just because we have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. That was so lame and so not us. Often others mistaken our attitude as some of them might said that we were a player, but we were actually not. The thing is, when we decided to be friends with someone, then the last thing that we care is if they are taken or available. Those facts won’t change our intention. So, for anyone who feels threatening because of, we in general and me to be exact, coincidentally were friends with your boyfriend, my wise words for you would be, “Get real!” Because, seriously, even if we’re fall in love to someone else’s boyfriend, so what? Falling in love doesn’t mean that we are going to get the guy, we all are unavailable ourselves, remember? So, don’t worry too much. Just because of we were too hasty on deciding to fall in love with someone, or just because we have so much loves in our hearts, doesn't mean that we're going to steal anyone’s boyfriend here. I mean, how could someone steal such thing, unless if the person allowed us to, that was a different story and we will talk about it in my next blog, hah!
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A Wounded Wife

Remember when I wrote about my friends, a couple who’s been together for more than ten years, and now have to get divorce over a love affair that been done by the wife? Yeah, they are now split up technically but not yet in legal matters. Last week, the husband told me that his ’soon to be’ ex-wife, tried to convinced him that she was sorry and pleaded him not to divorce her as she said that she still love him. She even cried to make it believable. So, of course, he thought (over his naivety) that she is a wounded wife, but, it didn’t change his decision. He is divorcing her.
Last weekend, the guy called, asked me if it’s okay for him to come by because he needed to talk about something. But, unfortunately, I had this fashion show thing going on that night so that I couldn’t have him. Knowing that, sarcastically, he was like, “Oh, that’s fine, I can come over some other time. By the way, if you see my wife tonight in the club, tell her I say ‘Hi’. Am sure she’s out and about already now, while she supposed to be a wounded wife.” I was just laughed. I mean, how was I supposed to reacted to that? The last thing I wanted to do was spilling gasoline to a small fire. Besides, I was in a hurry to go that time, so I was kind of ignored his comment.
But now, after thinking for a while, I realized that he is not being fair here. Here is the thing, different people have different way on how to deal with stuff like this. For example, when I have problems, any kind of problem that drives me to sadness, I locked myself in my room and write. While in the other hand, a dear friend of mine, tend to go out and partying. Does that mean that she is not feeling down with her problems? No, I don’t think so. Does that mean that she’s not a good girl? Just because she went out partying whenever she feels sad? I don’t think so. I mean, what does ‘wounded wife’ supposed to do anyway? Crying over pitying herself? Who has a right to determine what ‘good’ wounded wife does at this time of period? The husband? The social circuit? People who go to church? Or the church itself? I don’t even know.
My point is, in this circumstance, I don’t think there is any exact definition on what ‘wounded wife’ should do or should not do. The thing is, just because you did something awful that driven your marriage to crumbled, doesn’t mean that you were not wounded of that. And just because of you didn’t show the sign of what wounded wife ‘supposed’ to do, doesn’t mean that you were the evil in the relationship. Some people, including me, just never show their feeling. When I said these whole things to my partner, he was like shocked. He thought that I lost the plot by taking her side while she was supposed to be the evil one. But, according to my opinion, just because I understand her, doesn’t mean that am taking her side. For me, am neither on any side in this situation. I mean, I understand why the husband was cynical at this point. Because he was hurting. And maybe he was a sour loser, but it doesn’t make him bad nor good man. It was only the way he deals with his issues. And likewise for the wife. I can understand why she went out partying, if she did, maybe because she is not the type of girl who locked herself in the room whenever she down, unlike myself. And it doesn’t determine who she is. It doesn’t determine whether she was indeed a wounded wife or not.
So yeah, for me, there is no good people nor bad people if it define by the way they deal with issues. No one can judge you just by the way you solve your problems, specially not them who weren’t even inside those things. You have your prerogative rights to make your own decisions regarding your personal life and no one can say that it was a bad or a good one. Because at the end of the day, it was you and not them, who are going to run it.
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When I Miss You (A Poem)

When I miss you, I write a poem
Because for me, you are the rhyme
When I miss you, I sing our song
Repeating those memories when you and I were still in that one way system
When I miss you, I write you a letter
Even though for some reasons, I never manage sending you any
When I miss you, I lay awake and dream about you
The shadow of your image is all over my room now
When I miss you, I close my eyes
Feel your existence right next to me in the dark of the night
When I miss you, I kiss your lips
Those sweet lips that never disappointed me
When I miss you, I just call your name
And I know for sure that you will hear me alright
Because when I miss you, I was always reach for your arms
Allowing you to hold me tight in those manly things and whisper to you
That I miss you, that I love you
That I miss you so much, that I love
you so much..
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To My Holiday In Goa, just because I miss you that much..

The Brides War

As I told everyone before, I write about almost everything, including this one. Yesterday morning, my day started like normal which having breakfast while watching ‘Market Review’ on telly checking on my stocks hoping that I might sell something in the market today and make some money. But just typical Indonesian television, the program was having a technical problem so they couldn’t give us the ticker tick on stocks prices. So, stuck with some useless news on the market, I started flicking the channels and there was this movie ’The Brides War’ on one of those movie channels that caught my attention. First of all, I love Kate Hudson. For me, she is the funniest girl in the world and seems decent. Second of all, it was Bryan Greenberg. Am so crazy about him since he was in that TV show ‘October Road.' And also, he looks decent. The only problem I got was this actress Anne Hathaway. Seriously, for me, she is so annoying. Specially her big lips, they are that big, I have a problem to just ignore those jokerly look whenever she smiles. But, since she was outnumbered by Kate and Bryan, so I was managed to finished the film.

Here is the thing, the storyline of the movie was so real for me and my dear friend. Of course not exactly the same, but what happened between Kate and Anne’s characters reminded me of what happened recently between me and my best friend. Just like the characters in the movie, we’ve been friends like almost forever, since we were thirteen. Of course, as we were grown up together, we are not always be in harmony all the time. Just like in the movie, actually we’re two different individuals. My best friend is more like Kate’s character and am Anne’s. Yeah, my best friend is the one who has that strong personality while am more like a follower. She was also has that potential to be accused as a mischievous one and I was the tame one. We even joke once said that if there was a bomb exploded in a room and we were the only two people in that room, then everyone would easily pointed their fingers to my friend as a suspect who did the bombing thing and never me. Despite on any evidence. Hah!
Back to my point, just like those two characters in the movie, a month ago we were having a problem. No, I won’t tell you guys what the exact problem was, that would be inappropriate. But, the thing that I want to tell you that, there was a lesson of life that I’ve learned over the movie that resembled my own experience. Because no matter what happened between you and your best friend, deep inside your heart, you knew who your real friend is. When Kate’s character and Anne’s character were having a problem, they were kind of mean to each other, and so did we. When we were having a (sort of) fight, we also can be mean to each other. But, at the end of the day, our heart can not lie, we missed each other deeply. For me, no one can replace my friend’s spot in my heart. Even though I’ve tried to socialized with someone else and tried to make new friends, but still, they were never the same. Besides, for me, all of those problems that we’ve been through, actually allowed us to know each other better. Therefore, we can understand each other even better. So it was kind of lesson of life for us. I mean, even Mick Jagger knew that we can’t always get what we want. So yeah, we adjust. When we decided to be friends with someone, then we have got to take them as they are, right? I think, friendship is even deeper than love relationship. I’ll tell you why, we tend to be more adjustable when it comes to friendship. It was inappropriate for us to change our friends, but for some reason, it was acceptable for us to do it to our partners. I mean, many times I heard someone said, “I knew he was wrong, but he’s my friend,” while if our partners did the same thing, then it would be like, “He can’t do that. He’s my boyfriend!”
So, my point is, friends in general, best friends to be exact, is something special in a truer meaning. Selfishness is not something that we normally do with our friends but with our partners. Sense of owning that often driven to jealousy belong to love relationship, not friendship. With friends, you don’t have to be always at the same page, but at the end of the day you need each other. Friendship is a place where you can be who you are and there was someone in there who will always put up with your crap.
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To all of my dear friends, I don’t have to mention any names here, but you know who you are…I love you with all my heart, you guys rock!

God Is Gay

That was the first thing that came out from a dear friend of mine’s mouth when he was hitting a rock bottom of his life. Everything in the whole world seemed to came against him, so yeah, he was kind of let down by life. At that time I was not paid attention as I thought he was joking. Until last month, when I had a situation which I won’t call a rock bottom, but yeah, made me down and I decided to ask God for help, my friend was like, “Yeah, go talk to your God if you think that’s the right thing to do, if you think there‘s any God out there. Me, I gave up on Him three months ago when He didn’t answer my pray. He’s gay,” Seriously guys, I really don’t know what to say at that point. I mean, to hear something like that from a dear friend was kind of sadden. I still remember when I was so upset because of my vet asked me to make a decision for my cat euthanasia regarded to his health issue, I came to him and he was the one who prayed for my cat and me. I won’t say that am a religious person, but I do believe in God. Of course, as a normal human being who has so many curiosities in life, I do have a doubt once in a while about this super power thing called ‘God.’ But as my parents and cleric forbid me since I was a kid, I always buried my doubt deep inside me and tried not to mention it as for the people in this country, it might be something taboo to be said.
But, after heard those magic words from my friend, that thing came back again into my mind. Who is God? Where is He when we need him? Why He was always came late just like those police squad in every Hollywood movie? Doesn’t He supposed to be the one who knew everything first? Even way before we did it? I remember when years before I mention to someone that he should thanks God for everything that he got in his life, and he was like, “Why should I? I worked my *ss to get all of these things, why should I thanks someone else and not myself?” At that time, I called him ungrateful human being, but now, as I open my mind, that was something that makes my sense right now. I mean, can you imagine if he didn’t work hard and just prayed to God all the time instead, do you think that he’s going to reach his success like he is now? I don’t think so. God sure has something to do with everything here as He is actually our creator, but I don’t think He is the one who in charge in this game called destiny. We, the human, are in charge on making our own destiny. God, for me, just an element to settle us down so that we, the human, won’t over estimate of ourselves. So we, the human, won’t think that we own this universe because as a human being, it was so easy for us to over valued ourselves once we achieve a certain point. So yeah, there comes an authorized super power that we don’t know and won’t know where He actually came from, what He looks like, and there is no doubt and questions allowed to made regarding His existence.
Therefore, the crucial question need to be answered for me is, “Is there really any God?” Am not an atheist but that question keep on coming into my mind over and over again. No, I still pray to my God whenever am down or need help, but, for some reason sometime I have a doubt, was that necessary? The praying thing, I mean. Because to be honest with you, as my friend I mentioned above said, even though he didn’t pray, sometime the result was the same with whenever he prayed, sometime even better. So, I second him when he had that doubt. But no, I won’t stop praying in the name of God. I was just questioning the essence of doing it if we won’t get anything from it. Someone said to me that if you pray, God will answer only the time is not always accordingly. Because God has His own time and we should follow. Then, my next question would be, what’s so special about that then? I mean, if we need help now, what we’re going to do with the help that we get, let say a week, after? Am sure by the time we get that, we’d probably figured something out anyway. So what’s the point? That makes my next question would be like, if He was barely help us in our time, if we have to follow his time, does that make Him gay? Or we, the human, were asking too much?
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Two Is Better Than One (Welcoming Cheech And Chong)

Many things happened in my life that am grateful for, and one of those is when one morning at the beginning of this year I found these two kittens right in front of my garage. Looked like someone dumped them there to starved. I was still mourning of the lost of my Min-Pin the month before and one of the kittens has a broken tail, just like Macallan, my late dog. Over a pity of those little things, I fed them with milk. After finished drank all of the milk I gave them, they were like all over me and followed me home. So there you go, it’ not like I adopted them at that point, but more like they picked me as their new mom. The thing is, am more like a dog person rather than cats. But how could someone say ‘No’ to those blue eyes who looked at you with their innocent faces? Well, I couldn’t.
Anyway, since that moment, my life changed completely. I knew from the beginning that these two little buggars are different than Adam. But first, let me tell you a funny story about their name. I thought they were he and she as I predicted it from their size, so I named them Hansel and Gretel. For some reason, those names sound great in my ears. But when last month I had my vet came to the house to gave them their first vaccination, she told me that my kittens were actually both males. So yeah, Hansel and Gretel suddenly didn’t sound that great anymore and I had to came up with new names. Then I remember that a friend who has two rottweilers named his dogs Cheech and Chong at the beginning but then change the names as he gave up one of his dogs to someone else. Yeah, of course he had to change the name because just like Hansel and Gretel, the names Cheech and Chong have to come together. Knowing that he did that already and my man was also love those names then I named my kittens with those names at the end. Gosh, hope he didn’t find out about this and thought that am a copycat. But dude, I really seriously truly love the names!
Back to my thought above, I have a feeling that these two little things were different with my nice and lovely Adam. Maybe because of they both are males, so they were kind of hyperactive compared to their sister. And Cheech, oh my…he’s a whiner alright. I supposed he was younger than his twin. Chong was more like a leader in between them, and more independent as an individual. He was actually smaller than Cheech but he was a trouble maker and doesn’t really like being picked up and or cuddled. Chong is actually a loner while Cheech is a spoil brat. Then a few weeks ago, I came home to found Chong with a big lump on his back. Of course, as a concern mother, I was worried. But, there he was, jump up all over the place didn’t seem to be bother at all. After a week, finally his lump healed and I felt so relieved with his condition, even though if it didn’t effected him at all but for me it was still broke my heart seeing him with those ugly lump on his back that made him looked like a camel. And my thought at that point was he must had some kind of traumatic experience with whatever happened to him that gave him that lump. But, I was wrong. Totally wrong. A few days ago I came home from work and found him limping with this big swollen leg! What a naughty little buggar! God knows what got in to him now. I was given up worrying him at this level, no point whatsoever. He is going to do whatever he wants to do anyway, no one could stop him. He even started climbing the 2 meters walls surrounding my house already and went to the next door neighbors. One year Adam with me and three years with Frosty, they were always play on the roof but never broke anything. But just last week these two little things went up to the roof followed Adam, and tear up my mosquito’s net alright. Not to mention my speakers cover that they scratched to part, and the vase that they used for play hide and seek, and many more.
No, don’t get me wrong, am not complaining about my kittens here. Because even though they did what they have done, I don’t even have any hatred toward them at all. In fact, they were actually my heroes. Because of them I learned how to be more patient in life. How to care for others as I was never did before. Because of that I love them so much, even though they are cats and not dogs as I was always wanted.
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When A Man Loves A Woman

Nope, this is not about Michael Bolton's song, even though the title is the same, but this is about my confusion on how do you supposed to express your love to your partner in a proper way. In one of Entourage TV series episode, Eric's girlfriend who felt threatening knowing the fact that he was still keep in touch with his ex-girlfriend, asking his permission to give her access to read his e-mails. When Eric told the boys, everyone was like, "No way!" As for me too, that was exactly my reaction. I mean, how insecure are you to low yourself doing such a noisy thing like that? Don't you trust the man you with? Here is the thing, my partner gave me a full access to his e-mail, he even told me whenever he change his password. But unless he asked me to, I was never check on them. Even when he received e-mails from his female friends, he told me and asked me to read them. I know his intention was to show me that he has nothing to hide from me, but I was never interested to read them. Why? First of all because I trust him, but also because of I was never feel any threatening from anything or anyone. I mean, for me, it's not about whether you give each other access to your personal things, but it's more like your commitment to each other. How do you expect your partner to trust you if you have a difficulty trusting them?
Back to the Entourage episode, this thing was triggered by one morning when Eric received a phone call from someone and rushed to shower because he said he has to go for a meeting. While he was in the shower, the noisy girlfriend checked on his mobile and found out that he was talking to someone with a funny name before jumped up of the bed. And she also found out that he was still keep in touch with his ex-girlfriend as she found her texts in his mobile. This things made her go ballistic. But I was like, that was the prize you got for being such a noisy beyotch! Duh!
Now, I was wondering, when a man loves a woman and likewise, does that mean that you should open up all of your personal things to each other? Or, let say it this way, does your partner entitled to access your personal stuffs and there is nothing you can say about that? Don't get me wrong, I don't want to intimidate anyone here by saying that if you are noisy that means you are not cool. Hey, who am I to have any rights judging others coolness? I was just express my confusion. I mean, for me, when you love someone then you should set them free. I think we should rely on each other's commitment in a relationship. Maybe am too naïve or maybe am stupid. But I don't get jealous like normal people, I don't know why, some said that I have an empty hole inside me. Well, actually I do have a jealousy feeling in me but it won't make me go crazy or anything. Besides, if my partner told me about all of the e-mails he received, then why would I waste my time reading them? I have so many interesting things to do in my spare times! Hah!
In the episode of Entourage I was talking earlier, Eric broke up with his girlfriend because of that. If you guys watch the show, then you would know that Eric is the most honest and decent guy in between all of them, so actually the girl has nothing to worry about, in fact, he admit to the boys that he actually wanted this thing to work. But, he decided to ended up his relationship because of her insecurity thing that drive him crazy. And being with someone who has lack of confidence like her really is something uncomfortable. Now back to my point, if your partner give you a full access to their personal stuffs, does that mean that they love you? And if they refuse to do it, does that mean that they don't really love you? Does love define by something so lame like that?
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Can A Man And A Woman Be Friends?

This is hilarious, if you are a guy and already has a girlfriend, can you still be friend with a girl who has a boyfriend too? Yeah, can two non single people with the opposite gender be friends, just friends? Here is the thing, I have more male friends compare to females. And am not single so do most of my friends. So, of course, I found it kind of funny when one of my male friend got into a big problem with his girlfriend because of me. I mean, how did it happen? I can be anything but a threat to anyone. Besides, we barely see each other, but yeah of course..we're friends. At least that what I thought these all time. Maybe am naive or maybe am an ignorant beyotch. But for me, friend is a friend. But then again, I totally understand that different people has different way of thinking. I don't like when people try to make me change the way am thinking as much as I won't try to make others change theirs. So yeah, maybe the best thing is to keep a distance from him so I won't be labeled as a trouble maker by anyone, because am an Aquarian and one of an Aquarian characteristics was a peacemaker..so, world peace? Hah!

Honestly, I feel like am losing something here. Not that we're see each other very often, but for some reasons, I feel like he's a dear friend. So, I will be missing him, for sure. But hey, it's not like the end of the world. Everything is going to be alright. The main thing is am not going to ruined anyone's relationship here. In fact, that the last thing that came to my mind. But, even though I tried so hard to fix everything up, am the outsider here so it's going to be hard for me to convince everyone that I don't mean to do any harm. But I think all of the people that I care, knew. Hey, am not the baddie here! Am more like the mischievous one who could care less about others, someone once ask me was that one of the parts of me being a princess? Hum, could be. But that was me and I love me being me, so I don't think am going to do anything about it. Oh yeah, did I ever mention that am a very stubborn and selfish girl too? So becoming my friends wasn't easy therefore I have only short list of friends. And to lose one of those few was kind of sadden me.
Anyway, back to my question above, can non single people with the opposite gender be friends? Despite of anything? Well, at this point, I came to a conclusion that some of them can and some can't. It depends on how do you deal with every aspect in your life. Maybe am a freak, or maybe my self confidence is way over the top. But yeah, if my man has any female friend, I was never consider them as a threat no matter what. Because I trust myself that big, my self confidence won't let me feel that way. Thanks God for that, because I know how miserable it would be if it happened to me and I have no self confidence to deal with it.
So, at last, I just want to convince everyone once again that am cool and never was a threat for anyone. But I will quit my friendship if it becomes a threat to someone. Sad though, but for everyone's convenience, it must be done. So, this blog is actually a goodbye message to someone who used to be close but now gone, to a very dear friend of mine. Yeah, I will always consider him as a friend, though. Because he was, is, and will always be my friend. For me, friendship doesn't end just because of one of you made a stupid mistake. Because for me, friendship doesn't recognize gender nor status. Because for me, friendship is way beyond those stuffs. And please forgive my ignorant habit, but I never been in the situation of loving someone that deep so I was never afraid of losing anyone in my life. Yeah, am a very selfish girl who never love anyone more than I love myself. So maybe it was my fault for being such a beyotch by ignoring the girlfriend's feeling. Maybe it was just me and my weird way of thinking..I don't know..
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She's Just Not That Into You

Two weeks ago, I learned the fact that a couple that I’ve known like forever is getting divorce. The reason was he found some evidences that she’s been cheating on him. So yeah, like every other moral oriented person, I blamed the wife. What a bad girl she is. I can understand completely how disgraced he felt knowing that the woman that he married for more than ten years capable to do such thing. As he said, he was always tried so hard to be a good husband for her, provided all her needs and stuffs, but what did he get? A slap on his face!
But that was two weeks ago. Thing is, recently I watched his movie ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’ and discovered shocking thing in relationship. Well, to be honest with you guys, it was not that shocking actually, only now I realized that it was okay to think it that way. Yeah, these whole times, I was always think that if you’re not happy with your partners, then of course you have a right to tell them and probably even more extreme, leave them. When I mention that to someone, he was like, “What religion are you in?” Now, what this got to do with any religion? I don’t get it. But because of the way he said that, I was kind of backed off and save my thought inside me and never discuss about it anymore.
Until this thing with the couple I mentioned above came up and everyone seems to ganged up with him and judged her as a sl*t, this thought came back to mind again. I was always believe in the phrase ‘It takes two to Tango.’ I don’t believe that he was the perfect guy and the only victim in this case. I mean, if their marriage was so perfect and he was never done anything wrong, then I don’t see any reason for her to cheat. I knew her for almost ten years, I know that we weren’t that close, but still I don’t think that she is a bad person. I mean, when you committed a crime of passion then who has a right to judge you whether you’re guilty or not? And seriously guys, if you commit yourself in front of God (read : marriage) does that ease your right to get bored with your partner? Does that mean that you already found your destiny? Your soul mate? What if the person you marry was not your destiny? Does marriage mean that your chance to meet your soul mate ended up there? For example, yesterday when my friend and I took a drive around there was this cute guy we met and tried to make contact with us but we drove off. All because of none of us are singles. Now, my question is, what if that cute guy was actually our potential destiny? Should we passed the chance to know him just because of we were taken? Hum, I know most of you will say if he is really our destiny then we’ll meet again. But what if this was the only chance for us to meet our potential destiny? What if there is no second chance? Should we just let it go while it was actually served in front of us already? Just because we’re unavailable?
As for the couple above, why can we look at their situation simply as a destiny. Maybe they are destined to fell apart. Maybe the other guy was actually her real destiny and not her husband. Who knows? Who can assure us that the person that we marry now is our destiny? No one. Things are change, so does feelings. You can feel madly in love with someone at certain time but in the different time you would thought, “I can‘t believe I fell in love with him.” That is so human. We never know what the future holds, so yeah, no one has a right to judge another when it comes to relationships. No one right and no one wrong. Just because of one cheating on another, doesn’t mean that he or she was the bad one in it. Hey, everything happened, happens for a reason, remember? And yeah, that reason doesn't have to be always morally correct.
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Life Is A Joke

I know everyone will like, “What?” But yeah, for me, life is a joke. I don’t take it too serious, not even when am down with so many issues, still, I manage to laugh at it. So of course, when yesterday I learned that someone got upset because of my blog and what I wrote here, I was surprised. I mean, I didn’t know that anyone who read my thoughts would take them that serious. First of all, I was never mention any names in particular in my writes, unless if I wrote about some well-known names. I won’t refer Tiger Woods as a guy who won so many Golf Tournament, or Paris Hilton as a blond heiress who was always said, “That’s hot,” wouldn’t I? But of course, if I write about common things and or unknown people, I was always referred to them as my dear friend, a guy who I used to hang out with, one of my ex, a girl that I just met recently, and stuffs like those. So yeah, I was wondering, should it makes someone intimidated? Just because of the stories sounded familiar? Hm, call me heartless but I don’t think anyone should.
Here is the thing, whenever I write my stories, just like any other people who write, I tend to exaggerated everything a little bit. Dude, I have to make them more interesting and readable, don’t I? Am not one of those boring writers who doesn’t care about how to entertain his or her readers. But then again, not everyone can take jokes and different people has different sense of humor. My suggestion for everyone is, if any of you can not take jokes, please don’t read my blog? Because it would probably annoyed you that my stories sound like yours but believe me, unless if I dedicated them to you, they really are not. And I have to say it here, if you decided to read my stories, please be good in math because my stories were not all current. So, if I said eight months ago or something like that, please do check with the date I posted and calculate it correctly. Maybe then you will find out that the story was not yours or your friends or maybe it was about me and some people you knew but if it happened way before your time then it has nothing to do with anyone but me and them. I was just want to ask everyone who read my blog to be wiser about everything written. Because if they are coincidentally same with yours, as long as I don’t mention names, please don’t be too sure that they are indeed your stories. Because the thing is, my life and my stories were never about certain people. My stories were always in general. Just because I met certain people who inspired me to write, doesn’t mean that my life stop right there.
So yeah, to whom it may concern, to everyone who has a sensitive heart and accidentally read my blog and felt intimidated, even if I don’t think it was my obligation, but of course, I do apologize to any of you. The last thing you should worry about in this so called funny world is my writes. As I wrote on my opening column, mostly my stories are so shallow. Then of course, it was kind of surprising for me to found out that someone took it seriously. Come on, life is complicated enough on its own, why don’t we make jokes about it? But seriously, if someone really earn an apologize from me, then it would be that German F1 driver. Because I wrote so many bad things about him, and yeah, I was never ashamed telling people how I hate him. So Schumie, am so sorry and please take my deeply apologize to you. I apologize for everything that I wrote about you before and everything that am going to write about you later on. But as someone who wise enough, am sure that you don’t mind at all, do you? Beside, we don’t live in the era where no one feel free to express themselves anymore. Well, I don’t know about you, but I don’t.
Okay, back to my point. Whatever I wrote in my blog was never about certain people unless if I mention certain names. So to anyone who read them, please be sensible and use your common sense. I know as a friend once said that my writes are strong opinionated, but the stories were only stories, never were something serious. And they all are my own opinion without any intention to intimidated anyone, that is why my blog called "According To Dewi." Duh. Because for me, life is a joke so I don’t take it seriously. But if any of you feel the opposite, if any of you can't take jokes, please, the best way is to not read my blog. I know it can be frustrating sometime when you don’t have that kind of humor. And it was no one’s fault, not yours nor mine. It was just different people, different opinion, different way on how to deal with life. But for God sake, loosen up a little bit, dude! Because everything is not always about you. So yeah, blame it on the freedom of speech! Hah!
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Am I Suck?

Okay, here's the thing, if people that you thought were your friends said something bad about you or gossiping you behind your back, is the problem was you or them? I know they said it takes two to tango, but if you don't reckon doing anything bad then was that mean that you are suck? To make it even worst, when they found out that you knew they were bad mouthed you, they didn't say anything apart from blaming your other friend who told you about what they said. Seriously guys, we are not talking about friends that you just met recently here but this was about someone that you've been hang out with like forever. Kind of shocking? I bet!
So, if you are in this situation, what would you do? As for me, I cried, but not because of what they said more over a disappointment. I mean, when you thought that people who you trusted to be friends with stabbed you from your back, it hurts even more than if it did by your enemies, right? Of course, because when it did by your enemies then it won't be any shocking at all about it, because you were kind of prepared for that anyway. So yeah, for me it was not just hurting but also heart breaking. But then again, even though you try so bad to make everyone happy, you can not expect that anyone would love you because a dear friend told me that when you do something good for others don't expect anything in returns, it will ruin the essences of helping itself. So yeah, I guess I've done my part, but if that still not enough and they were still hating me for some reasons, then the problem is them, not me. I'm sure there must some explanations behind all of those bad mouthed things, and to be honest, I don't really care. The truth is, as I said all the time, when people said something bad behind your back, it must be because of they don't like you. And when people don't like you that must be because of they envy you for some reasons. And it was so human to be envy of someone that better than you. So yeah, for me, more people envy me, the happier I will be. Because that means that more people think that am better than them. Even though I never expect it from my dear friends, but still, it shows me who I am and who they are and where we stand on. What a great lesson I've just got from life. Oh no, am not going to scrub them from my friends list, oh no I will not do such thing that pull me down to their level, but it sure will open my eyes that even your dear friends are capable of bad mouth you behind your back, even if you treat them as good as you can, do not expect that they will do the same to you. Besides, everyone has issues in their life that you were probably couldn't understand but that's life. Tough, but when you got through it, it's going to give you a very good lesson. Hey, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, remember?
Now, back to my question, am I suck? I don't think so. The only problem that I had was my expectation towards my friends was too high.
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10 Things I Hate About You - Part. 5 (A Poem)

I hate the way you smile to me
When you look at me from the end of the alley
I hate the way you raise you eye brow
Scrutinised your green eyes which I adore badly
I hate the way you laugh at me
Whenever I make silly joke that not even funny
I hate the way you steal a kiss from me
At a moment that only belong to you and me
I hate the way you fool me
Always find excuses and make me fall for your misery
I hate the way you beg me
'Cause how do you expect me to walk away when you looking like that?
I hate the way you make me beg
For a reason that only we know what it is exactly
I hate the way you make me those cups of tea
Was that the way you thank me?
I hate the way you leave me in the morning
Why can't you just call in sick of something?
But above all those, I hate the way you make me
Falling in love with you was my very own stupidity
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Who Dat?

This week was probably the busiest week in the US as the Super Bowl was kicked off last night in the Sun Life Stadium, Miami. Super Bowl XLIV, the 44th, is a Super Bowl currently being played and pitting the American Football Conference (AFC) champion Indianapolis Colts against the National Football Conference (NFC) champion New Orleans Saints to decide the National Football League (NFL) champion for the 2009 season. The game's kickoff took place at 6:28 p.m. EST (23:28 UTC) last night on February 7, 2010 features the Saints' first Super Bowl appearance since their founding in 1967, while it is the fourth time a Colts franchise team has appeared, since their founding in 1953 as the Baltimore Colts. In their three previous Super Bowl appearances, all also in Miami, the Baltimore/Indianapolis Colts have lost once in 1969 and won twice in 1971 and 2007.
The Saints enter the game with a 13-3 record for the 2009 regular season, compared to the Colts' 14-2 record. In the playoff games, both teams had a 1st round bye. The Colts entered the Super Bowl off of 20–3 and 30–17 victories, while the Saints advanced with scores of 45–14 and 31–28 (in overtime), defeating last year's runners up the Arizona Cardinals in their first game. The Pittsburgh Steelers, as defending champions, failed to make the playoffs based on tiebreakers. It is the first time since Super Bowl XXVIII (16 years previously) that both number one seeds have reached the Super Bowl. The Saints' head coach is Sean Payton, having joined from the Dallas Cowboys in 2006, while his opposing head coach Jim Caldwell was appointed the Colts head coach in 2009 having joined them in 2002 as assistant head coach.
It is the tenth time the Super Bowl has been held in Miami at the home stadium of the Miami Dolphins, the fifth time being held in the Sun Life Stadium, and five more before those in the Dolphins' now demolished former home, the Miami Orange Bowl. Per convention as an even numbered Super Bowl, the Colts as the AFC representatives have the home team designation, wearing blue jerseys with white pants, while the Saints (who wore their white jerseys in several home games this year) will wear white jerseys with gold pants. The game was broadcast live on CBS, and the half-time show was feature the English rock band The Who.Carrie Underwood sang the National Anthem and Queen Latifah sang "America the Beautiful." Underwood's selection marks the third straight year that an alumnus of American Idol has been chosen to perform the Star Spangled Banner, joining Jordin Sparks at Super Bowl XLII and Jennifer Hudson a year later. Translation of both songs into American Sign Language will be provided by Kinesha Battles, a student at the Florida School for the Deaf and Blind.
The Pro Football Hall of Fame Class of 2010, led by Jerry Rice and Emmitt Smith, participated in the pre-game coin toss. The rest of the class - Rickey Jackson, Dick LeBeau, Floyd Little, Russ Grimm and John Randle - were named the day before.
American football, known in the United States simply as football and often as gridiron or tackle football outside the United States, is a competitive team sport known for combining strategy with physical play. The objective of the game is to score points by advancing the ball into the opposing team's end zone. The ball can be advanced by carrying it (a running play) or by throwing it to a teammate (a passing play). Points can be scored in a variety of ways, including carrying the ball over the opponent's goal line, catching a pass thrown over that goal line, kicking the ball through the goal posts at the opponent's end zone, or tackling an opposing ball carrier within his end zone. The winner is the team with the most points when the time expires. American football is closely related to Canadian football, but with significant differences.
In the United States, the major forms are high school football, college football and professional football, which are essentially similar but feature slightly different rules. High school football is governed in the U.S. by the National Federation of State High School Associations. College football is governed in the U.S. by two bodies; the National Collegiate Athletic Association and the National Association of Intercollegiate Athletics. The major league for professional football is the National Football League. Over the years, there have been other notable professional football leagues, including the All America Football Conference during the 1940s, the American Football League during the 1960s, the United States Football League during the 1980s, and the currently active United Football League.
Primitive forms of rugby, then all covered by the name "football", were being played in the USA as far back as 1830 at Georgetown University and the 1840s, at Harvard, Yale and Princeton, stemming partly from Americans who had been educated in English schools. The history of American football can be traced to early versions of rugby football and association football. Both games have their origins in varieties of football played in the United Kingdom in the mid-19th century, in which a ball is kicked at a goal and/or run over a line.
Now here is the thing, I was never in to American football what so ever. Seriously, I don't get the game at all. A bunch of big guys with padding everywhere running around chasing a ball and hit each other, what so fun about that? Don't get me wrong, but for me that game is not manly enough. Come on, men wearing padding? It's a sport, man...let yourself got cuts and injuries for God sake! You are not doing any extreme sport like jumping down the hills 200 miles an hour or anything! It's only collision between you and other guys! What would you get? Cuts? Brushes? Deal with it! But what can I say, am not American so I will never get to understand their game as much as most of my American friends said that football, or in this case 'soccer', is a stupid game. Yeah, different country, different game, different type of excitement, right?
Maybe American football is a collision sport.And to stop the offense from advancing the ball, the defense must tackle the player with the ball by knocking or pulling him down. As such, defensive players must use some form of physical contact to bring the ball-carrier to the ground, within certain rules and guidelines. Tacklers cannot kick or punch the runner. They also cannot grab the face mask of the runner's helmet or lead into a tackle with their own helmet. Despite these and other rules regarding unnecessary roughness, most other forms of tackling are legal. Blockers and defenders trying to evade them also have wide leeway in trying to force their opponents out of the way. Quarterbacks are regularly hit by defenders coming on full speed from outside the quarterback's field of vision. This is commonly known as a blindside.
To compensate for this, players must wear special protective equipment, such as a padded plastic helmet, shoulder pads, hip pads and knee pads. These protective pads were introduced decades ago and have improved ever since to help minimize lasting injury to players. An unintended consequence of all the safety equipment has resulted in increasing levels of violence in the game. Players may now hurl themselves at one another at high speeds without a significant chance of injury. The injuries that do result tend to be severe and often season or career-ending and sometimes fatal. In previous years with less padding, tackling more closely resembled tackles in Rugby football. Better helmets have allowed players to use their helmets as weapons. This form of tackling is particularly unwise, because of the great potential for brain or spinal injury. All this has caused the various leagues, especially the NFL, to implement a complicated series of penalties for various types of contact. Most recently, virtually any contact with the helmet of a defensive player on the quarterback, or any contact to the quarterback's head, is now a foul. During the late 1970s, the penalty in high school football for spearing included ejection from the game.
Despite protective equipment and rule changes to emphasize safety, injuries remain very common in football. It is increasingly rare, for example, for NFL quarterbacks or running backs (who take the most direct hits) to make it through an entire season without missing some time to injury. Additionally, 28 football players died from direct football injuries in the years 2000-05 and an additional 68 died indirectly from dehydration or other examples of "non-physical" dangers, according to the National Center for Catastrophic Sport Injury Research. Concussions are common, with about 41,000 suffered every year among high school players according to the Brain Injury Association of Arizona. In 1981, U.S. President Ronald Reagan, who played football in high school, commented on the contact of the sport: [Football] is the last thing left in civilization where men can literally fling themselves bodily at one another in combat and not be at war."
Extra and optional equipment such as neck rolls, spider pads, rib protectors (referred to as "flak jackets"), and elbow pads help against injury as well, though they do not tend to be used by the majority of players due to their lack of requirement.
The danger of football and the equipment required to reduce it make regulation football impractical for casual play. Flag football and touch football are less violent variants of the game popular among recreational players.
American football resulted from several major divergences from rugby football, most notably the rule changes instituted by Walter Camp, considered the "Father of American Football". Among these important changes were the introduction of the line of scrimmage and of down-and-distance rules. In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, game play developments by college coaches such as Eddie Cochems, Amos Alonzo Stagg, Knute Rockne, and Glenn "Pop" Warner helped take advantage of the newly introduced forward pass.
The popularity of collegiate football grew as it became the dominant version of the sport for the first half of the twentieth century. Bowl games, a college football tradition, attracted a national audience for collegiate teams. Bolstered by fierce rivalries, college football still holds widespread appeal in the US. The origin of professional football can be traced back to 1892, with William "Pudge" Heffelfinger's $500 contract to play in a game for the Allegheny Athletic Association against the Pittsburgh Athletic Club. The first Professional "league" was the Ohio League, formed in 1903, and the first Professional Football championship game was between the Buffalo Prospects and the Canton Bulldogs in 1919. In 1920, the American Professional Football Association was formed. The first game was played in Dayton, Ohio on October 3, 1920 with the host Triangles defeating the Columbus Panhandles 14–0. The league changed its name to the National Football League (NFL) two years later, and eventually became the major league of American football. Initially a sport of Midwestern industrial towns in the United States, professional football eventually became a national phenomenon. Football's increasing popularity is usually traced to the 1958 NFL Championship Game, a contest that has been dubbed the "Greatest Game Ever Played". A rival league to the NFL, the American Football League (AFL), began play in 1960; the pressure it put on the senior league led to a merger between the two leagues and the creation of the Super Bowl, which has become the most watched television event in the United States on an annual basis.
As a sports fan, I can see where all of these things came from. The excitement when you watch your team playing was indescribable. The adrenaline was top range. So I can totally accepting all of those guys who wear silly costumes, painted themselves with their team's color paint, hey guys...am with you! WHO DAT???

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Should He Stay Or Should He Go?

I was always love footballer, specially English, I can name almost all of them. One of those English footballers that I adore is John Terry. I think he is one of the best defender in the world, so that when he was chosen to became English National Team Captain after the resignation of David Beckham, it was nothing to surprised me.
But John Terry’s reign as England captain looked to be coming to an end last night as it emerged that he is considering resigning his position when he speaks to Fabio Capello on Friday. Sources close to the England captain said that he was mulling over whether he should quit when he meets his manager Capello at the end of the week following the revelations that Terry had an affair with Vanessa Perroncel, the ex-fiancée of his England team-mate Wayne Bridge.
As a manager for English National Team, Capello has assured his bosses at the Football Association that he will make a decision by the end of the week, at the very latest after the Euro 2012 draw in Warsaw, which he is due to attend on Sunday. Terry has spoken to Capello’s general manager, Franco Baldini, who is gathering information on behalf of the England manager.
Given the strength of public feeling against Terry, and the possibility of more damning revelations about his private life, he is thought to regard the possibility of resignation as a means of taking the sting out of the saga. It could well be the case that Capello will wish to sack Terry himself. Having come under more pressure yesterday to act, the Football Association finally broke its silence yesterday and released a statement, saying that Fabio Capello alone will make the decision about John Terry’s position. It was intended to convey the organization’s deference to Capello on all football matters, although it also underlined that there is a real quandary over Terry’s future.
Now, here is the thing, many people in England adore their footballers just like I do. In fact, they are their heroes and they are also become role models for kids and everyone else. Many children in England passionate themselves to become one of the National Team players. So to be a captain is not just something big but huge. You are not just under everyone's eyes but you are also carrying your country's image in front of million of people in the world on your shoulder.
As one of his admires, of course, I sometime blinded by how much I adore him. I was like, the girl is the ‘B’ one in this case. OMG, all of my girlfriends will kill me if they read this, but yeah, I will always blame her and hey, look at the bright side of this case...JT was actually helped Bridge to open up his eyes and sees the truth about his girlfriend. Hah! As for Terry, of course he did something wrong here and I, myself, am not supporting affair during marriage, but yeah, whether we like it or not, for many years now footballer's wives and girlfriends were became jokes in England. On how they were positioning themselves as celebrities or superstars. Seriously, in one of Top Gear show I watched last time, Jeremy Clarks even put one of those cool Mercedes car on their 'Super Uncool' wall just because of Rooney just bought one for his wife Coleen! That's how bad they were! And seriously, I think this just reminds us that the list of current England players – and in fact, footy players in general- that have had nasty extra-curricular activities reported, rumored and whispered about is a skanktastic kilometer long. So what? They sure can play football very well, but they are also human!
But yeah, it was bound to happen sooner or later. No matter what your stance on this issue, whether you think JT has behaved abhorrently or whether you think that having an extra marital affair has no bearing on someone’s ability to play the game of football, it is undoubtedly true that many are sickened by the Chelsea man’s behavior and it was always going to be hard for John Terry to keep the England captaincy in the face of such public scrutiny.
Question now is, who is morally transparent enough to take the post from the center back? Believe me there are not that many viable candidates! It appears Fabio has an eleven who all have their fair share of skeletons in the closet. Hey, nobody’s perfect, remember?

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